wrapping up my last few months at work and homecoming.
The other day I was researching articles on "preparing for homecoming."
There are so many posts on preparing for deployment, but I found very little on preparing for homecoming. What I did find: Do not to stress too much about getting into shape, everything does not need to look perfect, and none of your frantic preparations will even matter when you see your spouse. To be honest - that is probably very true, but if you're anything like me, the "stress" of preparing for homecoming is keeping you sane.
So my "preparing for homecoming list" may be totally against the advice I read, but never the less: Preparing for Homecoming for Type A Personalities
- Keep putting along. Do not give up because the end is near. Keep your social calender busy, keep working hard, keep celebrating small milestones.
- Start making a list (lists). If you're anything like me, on a daily basis you have a million "tabs open" in your brain. Start writing lists down; to-do, grocery, budgets, I have them all. It helps to collect your mind from going into a million different directions, especially if you are still too far out to actually do anything yet.
A calender with a list and a list on top of that list.
- When he says leave that for me - leave it for him, no matter how much it drives you crazy. We have a light out in the kitchen and for whatever reason, B wants to be the one to go buy the light and change it himself. Same with organizing the garage. When he comes home, I want him to feel like he is needed, because he still is and I make sure he knows it every day.
- Your ass is never going to have felt more motivated, get in the gym. Seriously, it's more motivating than a New Years resolution. Even if you are not a gym rat, it's amazing what a reduced sodium intake and some sit ups can do for how you look at feel. Believe me I've seen and felt the results on myself.
- Throw the months of homecoming day dreams out of the window and start bringing yourself back to reality. It's going to be perfect in the fact that your spouse is finally home, but it doesn't need to be perfect in any other way. So your curls won't stay in, so they were 4 hours later than they said and you've sweated off all of your makeup...The next few weeks will be a transition in more ways than one - cut yourself and him a break and allow yourself time to get back to your new normal.
All my lovely veteran spouses, spill it, I would love to hear your advice for homecomings!