Thursday, August 16, 2012

on wedding dress shopping...

After my friends and family telling me that I need to hop to it on this dress shopping, I finally took the plunge yesterday. I had a hilariously good time with my family as usual, but here is what I learned about myself...
I will never be the girl who cries over a wedding dress. If I am going to cry, it will be when my brain is fried and I'm ready for a glass of wine. There were a few dresses that I would have probably headed home with happy and not thought twice about it afterwards. The thought of going into much more of these stores until I get that "magical feeling" everyone says should happen, makes me kind of want to pull my hair out.
Basically Say Yes to the Dress would hate me.
Please tell me I am not the only one...

26 comments:

  1. I didn't cry or get that "magical feeling" either. I found a dress, liked it enough and took it home! You'll look beautiful in anything! Did you find THE one?

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  2. Of course you aren't the only one! lol. I literally bought the first dress I saw. haha... I lucked out. just find something that makes you feel like YOU! I will say that I tried on other dresses that were more "in style"/ flattering/ or sexy... but my dress said "Annie" so that is what I went with. it was comfy, and I felt feminine. So that was that. no tears here! just pick something that is YOU ;)

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  3. I never had that "magical moment" when I knew I had found the right dress. There was one dress where my reaction was " oh lane (my husband) would love this one". That is the one I ended up buying. If you are dress shopping in D.C, I really liked Bella Bridesmaid in Bethesda and Hitched in Georgetown. There is a great alterations women in Arlington who is way cheaper than anyone else for amazing work.

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  4. I love this photo! It captures your spirit and personality perfectly, at least what I think you'd be like in real life :)

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  5. I wasn't that into either. I knew what I wanted and there weren't a lot of choices.
    My Mom loved it though! She couldn't WAIT to go dress shopping. It's literally the first thing I did right after getting engaged.

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  6. I went to one store and the third dress I tried on I just knew was it. No tears or over reactions. My family had me try on more so "I'd be sure" and we got a top two but I knew it was the dress. Eight were forced on me but he third one was it. No muss and no fuss :)

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  7. I didn't like wedding dress shopping either. I knew I wouldn't going into it. Just not my thing. I went to 2 stores. Everyone told me to go to more, but I found it so exhausting and I hate attention on me. I went back to the first store b/c it was smaller and less overwhelming and bought my dress there. I refused to put a veil on - it freaked me out. Marriage didn't scare me. Trying on a wedding dress with a veil scared the bajeezes out of me, haha!! I broke out in a mass amount of RED hives... My mom had to tell the sales women to back off. Blotchy skin and all, I found my dress and was happy to close that chapter and go back to picking flowers, choosing my cake and bridesmaid dresses - now that was fun!!

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  8. I didn't have "the moment I just KNEW" either. I tried on about 10-12 dresses, tried on one again that looked like it made my butt look bigger (I have the body proportions of a 12 year old boy), spun a couple times, and said, I'll take it.
    Bam. Done.
    My mom, mother in law and sister in law had a lot more fun with it. I just found it strange. Also, I mean, when I try on normal clothes, I know what I'm looking for to flatter my body type. But long white dresses? Um hello, that's completely foreign territory.
    My bit of advice: Keep in mind the weight of your dress. No one told me I would be physically exhausted dragging around a 25 pound dress halfway through my wedding.
    Have fun shopping!!

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  9. I didnt cry. My mom did. That's how I ended up with a beautiful dress, but one I wasn't completely sold on, even on my wedding day. I was so mad I never got that feeling, but I realized that I would have been happy in jeans and a t-shirt. I'm not the wedding-dress type girl.

    So, pick a dress that flatters you, you feel pretty in, and is easy to bustle! And most importantly have fun while trying them on! (Cute photo too!)


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  10. There was nothing "magical" about picking out my wedding dress. lol. Excited for you to get your dress!!!!

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  11. I'm right there with you! I didn't cry in the dress I chose either. I felt like myself in it and the reaction from everyone told me it was the one. I hope you find the one that is best for you! It only took me two stores, so I'm not very typical either.

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  12. I just had this conversation with one of my good friends who didn't have the moment either. I spent almost two years as a bridal consultant and it's not abnormal AT ALL to not have "the moment." I would say in my experience working with hundreds of brides, it's a 50/50 thing. I would tell those girls that it came down to what dress just made them feel fabulous.

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  13. I just went in and got a dress that looked good and never thought more about it. I could have done without the whole wedding thing and been just fine with a simple court house marriage. I enjoyed my wedding tons and don't regret having a big one, but I could have done without it... honestly.

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  14. Yep, I hate those stores. That's why I ordered my dress from J-Crew!

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  15. My grandma and I went into David's Bridal with a list of five dresses I wanted to try on. They had three of them. The first one looked hideous. The second one looked even MORE hideous! Nan had been shuffling through the racks and found one she wanted me to try so I threw it on third. She got a little misty and I knew it was the one. There was no magic. There was no huge group of people making faces and telling me I looked awful. There was me and Nan and about 30 minutes to check-out!

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  16. I used to sell wedding dresses. What you're looking for is a positive reaction unlike the other dresses brought. I went with a best friend recently and we knew she'd found the right one when she began to laugh hysterically at how "ridiculous" she looked. And that's what she wanted- to be as "big" as she could. Some cry, some laugh, some simply look at the mirror once to decide they found the right dress. Part of it might be is that you've already married and know that you are just celebrating with those you love. As long as you're comfy and happy, nothing else should matter.

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  17. Girl I hear ya! I tried on like 5 dresses and I was over it. I picked the one I liked the most and it ended up working out perfectly! I'm sure whichever one you pick will look fabulous!

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  18. I'm so glad that I am not the only one! I was really waiting for that reaction the whole time I was shopping but never got it. I didn't feel like any particular dress was "the one" or anything like that. I just liked a few and finally decided on one. In fact, after a few stores the only tears I got were tears of frustration along with the stress of it all!

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  19. You're so cute Jordan, I didn't get that magical feeling either and I wasn't a bawling sobbing hot mess. I just knew after going to 3 different shops that the one I kept going back to and thinking about was it. You will find the dress you love in no time! Plus you look great in EVERYTHING you wear so I'm sure everyone is going to be totally jealous of whatever you pick!

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  20. I was the SAME exact way with wedding dress shopping!! No tears were shed here and there was no magical moment for me, I liked so many of them! The attendant helping me pointed out that I started to dance in the last one I tried on, which I hadn't done with any of the others, so she thought that was a sign! I did end up LOVING the dress I chose, so I guess she was right :)

    Have fun with it!!

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  21. I was the same way as you when I was wedding dress shopping! I never had the magical moment of "this is it". I tried on two dresses and picked the second one. It was so easy and my dress was perfect!

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  22. Nope, I didn't cry or do anything major. It was the first dress I tried on, but then I tried on a bunch of other stuff, then left and went to another store and tried some more on. Came back to that first one--I wish I would have just bought it the first time because the store had a "first time in the store" discount! Oh well!

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  23. As the girl who bought her dress off eBay and that was the only one I ever tried on (and after I purchased it at that), I can safely say I don't think you're alone. I knew it was perfect, but I didn't have any teary eyed, magical experience. And I'm pretty prone to teary eyed-ness. My sister-in-law and good friend bought the first dresses they tried on, but I think they tried on others and then went back to the first one. In the end, it's about the groom and not the dress and you already nailed that. =)

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  25. I was lucky to find my wedding dress at first attempt to shop for it. My mother and elder sister helped me with it. I really loved it. But now it has been 4 years since my wedding and have planned to sell wedding dress online.

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