Tuesday, March 06, 2012

Wedding Bliss

I have been "planning" my wedding since I was 2.
I have always loved weddings and I am looking so forward to planning one to the man of my dreams!

However, when B and I started talking about seriously taking the next step, we decided together that we wanted to pay for majority of our own wedding. Watching one of my best friends plan her wedding, paying for the entire thing herself has really sobered me up to the production behind it all. My friend even had caterers laugh when she told them her budget.

If you look at weddings, the truly special moments are generally the things that cost little to no money; like having your uncle marry you before the eyes of God, that special dance with your father, laughing during your vows because it's just all so awkward to say those things in front of a crowd, stealing a moment with your new husband away from all the wedding madness....(realizing the importance of good photography)
The reality is, whether I have a $20,000 wedding with all the best food, decor, and top shelf drinks, or a $2,000 wedding in my uncle's backyard, I know it will be beautiful because I am head over heels, butterflies in my stomach, in love with my best friend and my biggest supporter. Together we are left with the comfort of knowing we will have a beautiful marriage with family, friends, and God holding our hands the entire journey. And knowing that is more exciting than any detail of wedding planning.

14 comments:

  1. We went for the simple route. The smaller, the better...and more meaningful.

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  2. Aw! You two are so precious. I used this same picture on my Backwards Bucket List post. Having a marriage more beautiful than your wedding is the most amazing thing ever. Five years later and I'm still more in love than the day I married him. No matter what, I know your wedding will be stunning. We were the first of our friends to get married and before the world of Pinterest ever came around. Our wedding we more expensive than we had planned but it was perfect. Looking back, I know now not to get lost in the details. I would've been just as happy getting married in my living room with only my closest family and friends...just like my parents did!

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  3. Except for your wedding dress. Picking out your wedding dress is a must have magical moment. I agree that everything else is of minimal importance. But my gosh I felt fireworks when my wedding dress found me!

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  4. Very wise. I had always dreamed of the big, glamorous wedding, but ours was beatiful and simple. I bought my dress on eBay for $120 (including shipping and the bag - it was an $800 sample dress from last season and it was perfect). My FIL married us. We splurged on the venue as we really wanted to be married in a church, everything else was borrowed or made. =)

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  5. AMEN to ALL of this! Prepare for the marriage, NOT the wedding!

    One piece of advice (clearly you did not ask for but I will give anyway) - don't worry about your guests. So many times I found myself worried about accommodating (and impressing) our guests and our bridal party...at the end of the day, they come for YOU, not the food, not the pretty table linens, not the floral arrangements, not the dancing, etc.

    You are a wise woman!

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  6. EXACTLY! I am so glad you see all of that.

    I, like you, have been planning for as long as I can remember. Clearly, since I don't have a man in my life I have no idea how our future wedding will be but all that matters in the end is what you said. You are marrying your best friend, your biggest supporter, and the marriage is far more important and should be a bigger investment than the wedding.

    My "wedding" to Michael was not one at all. It was fine for the time being because he was active and just got back from deployment. One of my most fondest memories is having to eat at CiCi's Pizza the night we got married because his mom basically drained his bank account (long story). As awful as that normally would be for a wedding night, we laughed about it and chose to live it up instead of drag us down. Probably my favorite memory of our "wedding."

    As a former wedding planner, the two most important aspects I stress to girls is photography and the dress. They go hand in hand and to me, are areas I don't want to skimp on. You'll have those pictures around long after you're gone and you want to make sure you have the dress of your dreams and feel like an absolute princess.

    XO

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  7. Totally agree!!! Mr. F and I had a small, simple wedding and I wouldn't change a thing! Most people now tell me that after all the stress and money they wish they had done what we did. My advice is to make it YOUR day and let it reflect you two and your love. Oh, and definitely get a good photographer and take that Honeymoon while you can! :-)

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  8. You are so wise my dear. Planning a wedding is a lot of fun, but in reality it is just a day, and the marriage is what it is truly all about. A beautiful, fun, & sexy marriage to your best friend, is better than any one day. But do try to enjoy the wedding planning process, it can be fun & very memorable! And I'm sure your getting tons of advice from us "old married ladies" ;)so here's mine. A photographer is pretty important (just like you said) You will look at those pics for the rest of your life! And don't spend allll your $$ on the wedding...save some for that honeymoon! And take it while you can, go somewhere new, & splurge a little...And just FYI, Jamaica was aaamaaazzzinnnggg :) Again, so so excited for you guys!
    xo

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  9. I just found your sweet blog, and I love it! This post is exactly how I feel about my wedding. I'm so excited to be your newest follower!

    I hope you'll stop by my blog, Cupcakes and Candy Canes, sometime!

    Allyson
    http://cupcakescandycanes.blogspot.com

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  10. its so good that you already have this mentality. On the day of nothing will matter other than you marrying the man of your dreams.

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  11. I work for a wedding coordinator and hearing this post makes me happy. So many people get wrapped up in the wedding and forget the marriage. I'm thrilled for you.

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  12. I know your wedding will be beautiful and perfect for YOU. My one piece of unsolicited advice is - do not settle on the photographer. I won't share my sob story yet again, just trust me on this. :)

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  13. We went simple on our wedding. I made all the decorations myself. Shopped online in multiple places for cheap prices. I found all kinds of deals. We did splurge on some things we probably could have done less on but it turned out wonderful and I loved how it all turned out. I know yours will be perfect as well.

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  14. I totally agree with everything you said! I've never wanted a extravangant wedding. Why spend SO much money on something that will only last a couple of hours? Also, I hate being the center of attention, so having a bunch of guests and this huge wedding would be way too much for me. When the time comes, I want to have a simple and intimate wedding with just my closest family members and friends. As long as I have my loved ones there, I will be happy!

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